Wednesday, September 29, 2010

What Not To Say: Tools for Talking With Young Children by Sarah MacLaughlin...Review & Giveaway

I just finished what has to be one of the most helpful guides for raising young children...What Not to Say:  Tools for Talking With Young Children by Sarah MacLaughlin.  What Not To Say is a compilation of 66 common expressions to avoid using and why they don't work.  The author does not only tell you what NOT to do she gives you tips on what could potentially work better.

What Not To Say is geared toward parents or caregivers with children aged 1-6.  As the mother to twin 4 year olds, I can appreciate the challenges of this age group.  This age group is wonderfully interesting and funny but can also be stubborn and reactive...my boys are certainly the toughest bosses I have ever had!  I could not wait to crack into this book!

Right away I recognized many of the common expressions listed as either something I have said or have heard another parent say to their child.  For instance how about the old stand by "Because I said so"?  This one doesn't really work does it, but we all know someone who has said or we ourselves have uttered it.  MacLaughlin explains that by using this we dismiss our child's feelings and close the lines of communication.  Sure, the steady fire of questions from a pre-schooler can be a bit draining at times but isn't it far more satisfying (for them and us!) to answer their questions rather than cut them off?  What about "There's nothing to be afraid of?".  Of course there are things in the world to be afraid of...aren't we all afraid of something (BEARS!!)??  Instead of dismissing our child's fears we should address them and find a way to navigate them.

Those are just two of the expressions addressed in this book but each and every one gave me pause and made me think about what I say to the kids and how I say it.  What Not To Say is broken up into easy to navigate sections and many of the common expressions include book suggestions for your child to help drive positive points home and address any tough times they may be going through.

What Not To Say earns huge points from me and I happily recommend this book for anyone with young children.  This book really helps you to understand you child, understand how your words can affect him//her and give you pointers on how to make more meaningful connections.  I think we all want our interactions with your children to be joyful ones and Sarah MacLaughlin gives some solid tips for helping you to do that.  A must read!

You can purchase What Not To Say:  Tools For Talking With Young Children on Amazon....


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Disclosure: This is a sponsored post and I was provided with the above mentioned book for purpose of review.  The opinions in this post are entirely my own. Your experience may differ from mine. This post has not been reviewed or edited by anyone. I was not compensated in any other way for this review. The sponsor of this giveaway is responsible for prize fulfillment and shipping the winner(s) their prize.

104 comments:

3 Giggly Monsters said...

I love her answer on 5-6 year olds lying, Great tips.
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I like that her answer on lying has to do with using logic, not getting angry.

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I like her answer to the tantrum question. My husband and I are having our first child in December, and the idea of dealing with tantrums terrifies me!
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I find it helpful to know that there is nothing I can do to stop my young toddlers tantrums. I used to try but now I just let it go until he cools down on his own!

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The tantrum answer made me feel good about the way I approach dealing with my daughters tantrums (when I do in fact keep my cool). Would love to read this book!
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She says that "The plain fact is that every child lies—it’s a developmental norm." I guess that makes me feel a little better about my daughters' fibs.

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I thought it was interesting that kids ask "why" because it's an easy word to say and it keeps the conversation/interaction going.
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Jennie said...

I like her advice on how to deal with a kid who lies.