I have just finished reading what has quickly become one of my favorite parenting books...Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. This book is an incredibly thoughtful guide to raising children who are friends instead of adversaries. Here is the scoop....
The #1 New York Times best-selling guide to reducing
hostility and generating goodwill between siblings.
best-selling authors with How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So
Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish turned their minds to the
battle of the siblings. Parents themselves, they were determined to figure out
how to help their children get along. The result was Siblings Without
Rivalry. This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools
they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and
make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special
relationship. With humor and understanding much gained from raising their own
children Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide
suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative
outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair.
Updated to incorporate fresh thoughts after years of conducting workshops for
parents and professionals, this edition also includes a new
I am an only child so, to be honest, the whole sibling thing is new territory for me with A, W & R. When I was a kid I thought children who had brothers and sisters were just the lucky ones who had a constant playmate. Now as a mom to three, I know a constant playmate can quickly turn into a battle mate! Siblings Without Rivalry gave detailed ideas and strategies to help your children get along throughout the ages.
I found the layout to be very appealing. There were real life stories taken from the workshops which provided lots of variation in tales of sibling dynamics and troubles in ways that were very relatable. The book was not at all "preachy" (as I have found some parenting books to be) and it provided you with real life tools to help your children become lifelong friends. I paid special attention to the sections on not comparing your children because, as a mom of twins, it is sometimes very difficult not to do that. I am trying to be sure to give all of the children some special time when the focus is on them alone. It is hard to always share the spotlight! Faber and Mazlish really do provide practical advice that makes the often bumpy parenting road ride much more smoothly. If you are a parent to more than one this is a MUST! Pick up your copy today...